(And by lecture I mean everything he says boils down to this: "I know everything and my opinions are not opinions, they are RIGHT. If you disagree, well, you are clearly wrong.")
(He would argue with that assessment.)
(But it's true.)
SO. After THIR frikken TEEN years of marriage, when I hear that tone I tend to get a little defensive.
(And by defensive, I mean, like a rabid wolverine, I listen carefully to his argument, then BITE HIS DAMN HEAD OFF!)
This very morning, he wanted to have our favorite fight, Let's Discuss Distribution of Labor. But he was just about to get in the shower, and was thus appropriately undressed.
It is very hard to get angry with a naked man lecturing at you. Even when what he is saying filters through your brain as, "You are a lazy, messy, pig-wench. Get off you butt, stop blogging, and clean up this hole! The Landlord wants to inspect and everything smells of rotten fruit and hidden dirty diapers. I work full time, you, pshaw, whatever you do all day barely counts as work at all. You have to take care of everything."
(I don't know what he really said. Probably something like, "Um ... sweetie pie, the house smells weird and the land lord is coming over, how can I help?")
Anyway. I think if my husband wants me to listen and not get all crazy defensive, we should have all our discussions with him nekkid.
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This is so awesome, totally made me laugh out loud. When my kid asked what was so funny, I kind of had to lie, because I couldn't say, "My friend's naked husband."
And for the record, my husband also likes to lecture me. The other day he said, "Do you ever worry that our kids are going to grow up to be slobs because their mother never puts her clothes away?" That was his gentle way of saying "Pick up your stupid clothes."
Also, he slept on the couch that night.
You know how sometimes at bridal showers the host asks you to write down some bit of advice to share with the bride, my advice has always been, "Always fight naked!" Your post proves why this is such great advice!
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