I had one brother. He was special needs and I learned a lot from being his sister, but I never enjoyed a normal sibling relationship. I know they are not easy, but, as an adult, I often envy women with sisters they can talk to. With brothers they can call.
I do have an amazing set of brother- and sister-in-laws, but I hesitate to call them - I don't want to intrude, you know. I'm sure they wouldn't mind ... but it's very hard for me to force anyone to listen to my issues. (Except you. You come here voluntarily tho, not just because I married your brother).
So. Having children. Whether they see it as such or not, I feel like I'm giving them the gift of each other.
I wish I could give everyone a brother and a sister, but I'm not sure I can.
And they are all crazy normal amazing people. Who will have each other, hopefully even after I leave them. People who know why they are crazy like they are.
People they don't have to be ashamed to ask for help ... because they've all gone through so much indignity already, everything else is no big deal.
I love them so much. It's crazy how much I want them to always be happy and never let bad things happen.
"Roths Stand Together!" I tell them. I want them to always have each other when they need each other.
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My brother is special needs too. I have always felt like his mother instead of sister. I love watching my girls grow close and share a laugh. I envy it a little too.
Having sisters really IS as amazing as it seems to be. I have two and one brother (who is also special needs). My sisters are my best friends and it is so cool to be able to talk about almost anything and we sound alike and have the same sense of humor. You can be our honorary 4th sister, Brandy. (just as long as you side with me in all arguments and french braid my hair whenever I ask you to!)
p.s.- Did I forget to mention that your children are FREAKING CUTE??
p.p.s.- We so need to email again. We (my sisters and I) always talk about how cool and strange it is to have found someone with a similar upbringing!
p.s. What did you think of the Hunger Games?
Yes, these children are very cute.
You know, if you had sisters, maybe you wouldn't be such a good blogger, because you'd be telling them all of this stuff instead of us. It would be our loss, but perhaps your gain.
I'm a guy, so it isn't the same, but I do have two sisters and a brother. My brother is five years younger than me and we have never been really close. Now as adults, I try to have conversations with him about stuff that matters and there just isn't enough common ground, probably because he started getting high as a young teen and I'm sure he continues to this day.
Some of my friends are like the brothers I never had. You don't have to have a "real" sister to have a sister-like relationship. Just something to consider.
My wife is also five years younger than me. I would have never have guessed these two people (my wife and my brother) are the same age.
Speaking of my wife, we both wanted kids (emphasis on plural) but after we had the first one I had some hesitancy about trying for the second one, but my wife, despite how tiring mothering turned out to be, was insistant that our first child not be an only child. She said all of the only children she knows have sid they wished they had siblings. My reply: "That's because they don't know any better!"
I have four kids. I am also an only child. I hope my kids can see what a gift their siblings really are.
I loved reading this. I grew up in a very dysfunctional family which is not close at all now. I identify so much with what you write and the choices that you've made. I look at my own four children, who are very loving and close and it seems like a miracle that they are so emotionally healthy. It is so healing to come from an abusive background and to finally get to be an adult and do things your own way and raise a functional, healthy, happy family. After "raising" my defiant self absorbed mother, raising these sweet little unconditionally loving people is so much easier, rewarding and wonderful! Thanks for writing!
wow! I got to your blog today and realized that I hadn't checked it in like four posts. Which translates to too many days.
I hope you are feeling better. Sickness is sucky. I'm sorry you didn't like Alice in Wonderland. Now I know not to spend money to see it.
Oh, I told you I would let you know how my IUD appointment went. It was wonderful. I apologize for saying your doc is crazy. I'm the one who is crazy. You have to wait for your period so that your cervix is soft. Mine is already soft because I just had a baby. It felt like a medium sized cramp, with a tug/pull, and then it was all over. I do feel like I'm on my period today, but I was told it will only last for today and tomorrow. Maybe. Not bad. I took 800mg of Ibuprofen before I left for the Doctors just in case. If you're nervous I would recommend it. Good luck.
Wonderful pics--yes, they will always have each other! We were just talking about how much happier our family seems with two. And we were also talking about how I still have your hubby's coat!!! So sorry, I completely forgot!!! Also, you've always felt like a sister to me.
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