Wednesday, March 18, 2009

Big Love, Temples, and A Better Solution Than Censorship

I got the following forward today. I have received several requests to join Facebook groups telling me to boycott HBO and make them censor their Big Love temple scene. I think it's pretty crappy that the show's writers/producers/actors want to use a ritual I hold sacred for fodder on a soft porn TV show. To be fair, I've only watch part of the first episode, but it was bad enough that I had no desire for more.

As little the respect I have for this program, even less is my respect for censorship. Whatever I may think, people get to do and say what they'd like in America (within the standardized legal limits). I can boycott and shout my opposition, but the more I shout, the more likely you are to go youtube or tivo it or sit and watch it.

Here's a better idea:


Date: Tuesday, March 17, 2009, 8:57 AM
> Dear Brothers and Sisters,
>
> As you've probably heard, there's a big controversy
> swirling around HBO's show "Big Love" this
> week, as they are reportedly portraying the endowment
> session in their episode this Sunday. I have visited their
> website and expressed my disappointment and concern, but as
> I was listening to a reporter on the radio "cover"
> (more like "sensationalize") the story, the
> thought came to me...
>
>
> We should go to the temple.
> Wouldn't it be awesome if there was a surge in temple
> activity during the middle of March?! What better way to
> show Satan that he's not going to win this one?!
>
> When President Hinckley died, the youth used the power of
> technology to pass the word around to their peers:
> "Wear church dress to school to honor Pres
> Hinckley" and the youth responded in massive numbers.
>
> Why can't we grown ups do the same with our temple
> attendance this month?! I wish we could pick a day to try to
> all be in a temple, but I know that's not feasible. So,
> if your circumstances allow, I just wanted to strongly
> encourage you to visit the temple this month. We are so
> blessed to have the knowledge, ordinances, and peace that
> the temple gives!
>
> I can't think of a better way to fight back against
> Satan and his emmissaries. In fact, I know that Satan would
> not want us to do this...when I was halfway through
> composing this email the first time, my computer suddenly
> shut down and rebooted, and I wasn't even typing at
> the moment! ;) Yes, there's official proof that my
> computer is possessed! ;)
>
> Please pass the idea along to anyone you feel might want
> to make a special effort to partake of the blessings of the
> temple this month, and in turn, bless those who have gone
> before us and those who are all around us. There is so much
> power for good found in the temple...and we sure need it!!!
>
> God Bless,
> Kristin Robison





So - that's my plan for opposition.

Here's a little discussion I found interesting about it.

8 Brilliant Bits of Inspiration:

m.a. said...

Great idea. I just wanted to share what I told a friend in response to a question about the show...."To be honest, I've never seen it. Never even given it a moment's thought. But a bunch of people I know seem obsessed with hating it. I figure if something isn't true (which for as much as I know, it isn't) then why give it more air time by complaining about it??"

Jen said...

I think that it would be a considerably better response than a boycott/protest...positive actions are usually much more effective than negative ones in my experience.

I watched the show for the first season (I'm an atheist, but studied polygamy in different cultures academically for a good length of time so I was interested in how they would portray it.) I was always very well aware that it had nothing to do with actual Mormons, but was basically just an incredibly female-negative soap opera. I'm sorry that it's lasted so long.

I can't blame you for being upset or at least disconcerted about the ritual that's supposedly going to be performed on the show. I also think that it's pretty difficult to find any religious beliefs or racial heritages that haven't been completely misrepresented or denigrated on TV...I'm married to a Jewish guy so that's self-explanatory, I have devoutly Catholic friends who cringe now that almost every Catholic character on the tube is either a pedophiliac priest or an insanely cruel grade-school teaching nun. Asian characters on TV are just hideous, to put it mildly. I have more than a few kids with special needs, and believe me, they're not all either homicidal maniacs on the verge of depression, or saints.

Because TV absolutely does program to the lowest-common denominator, and people do keep buying the products advertised and tuning in to the shows, I'm not sure that we can expect much else. I think that the best course is just to go on with your life in the most positive way possible, and correct misconceptions when you are made aware of them.

Kameron D Kiggins said...

My innactive-Mormon opinion:

Whoever's behind this Big Love/temple thing is a bitter, disaffected Mormon or ex-Mo. They really want to piss off other Mormons. The episode is a huge, waving neon-lit middle finger from someone who feels deeply hurt and is gripping 55-gallon barrels full of toxic spite and resentment.

I've watched a few episodes of Big Love. Good cast, particularly Harry Dean Stanton as the creepy Warren Jeffs-esque sect leader. I thought it was well-done, and showed an interesting perspective on modern fundamentalist/plural marriage types. But otherwise, it didn't grab me -- good but not great. Nothing I'd go out of my way to follow.

From a fictional/narrative perspective, the writer(s) could explore the wife's conflict between her mainstream LDS upbringing and her fundie Mormon lifestyle in innumerable ways. Showing the temple ceremonies seems like a tacky promotional ploy. I think it's lazy writing. A way to cause controversy, then issue a lame sorry-if-anyone-was-offended non-apology.

Phannie said...

That's a great plan. I'm in.

I agree with m.a. and jen. Why spend so much negative energy? Spread some more positive. I never could understand the protesters at conference or at pagents. I mean, I always thought they had much more productive important things to do. So, don't we have more important things to accomplish?

Go out and spread the positive. The things that we believe in. Not the things that we hate. In the end We will feel better.

Ken said...

Not LDS. I'd be classified as Protestant. I call myself a follower of Christ. I have differences with LDS teaching.

As I think I've said before, even though I am not LDS, it leaves a really bad taste in my mouth when people disrespect a religious traditition in this way. It shouldn't be done to Catholics, it shouldn't be done to Mormons, it shouldn't be done to Jews... it shouldn't be done.

Scientology copyrights everything, so they can sue for copyright infringement when someone portrays their stuff in media.

When I heard what this show was doing, I rolled my eyes. Have some respect, people!

vesperstar said...

Why are so many LDS people watching that show in the first place? Or watching HBO at all? Shouldn't they be naturally boycotting it anyway?

This particular response acknowledges the need for tolerance in our pluralistic society (even with its surplus of "Satan" sprinkled in there). It's certainly better than violence if someone draws a cartoon you find insulting.

It's just the price we pay to coexist. Everyone gets to express him/herself, and everyone gets to handle possibly being offended now and then.

Anonymous said...

The world is filled with suffering men, women, and children. Wars. Poverty. Famine. Disease. And christians have their panties in a wad over a five minute segment on cable television. What a bunch of insecure, self-righteous, panty-waists. This is the kind of thing that led me out of the church.

Mrs. B. Roth said...

Welcome, Anonymous.

Take credit for your opinions. The words of those who agree with me are here useless for my education. I am more interested in why you think I should abandon my personal commitment to sacred rituals because there are "Wars. Poverty. Famine. Disease."

What made you leave the church? People mocking what you hold sacred? Or is it that you didn't hold the church sacred, found yourself mocking it?

Your specific experiences are far more interesting to me. Please, email me, tell me all about your experience with the church. Tell me why you gave it all up and how things are going? I'm not judging or gloating, I'm an fascinated by life stories, by individuals who have had to seriously look at their faith and DO something. I would love to understand you and your life. You stopped by to share your disappointment in what I choose to think about ... tell me why I should care what you think.